Why Do We Hate The Sound of Our Own Voice?

Why Do We Hate The Sound of Our Own Voice?

Have you ever wondered why, when you are forced to listen to your own voice, you instantly say, “That doesn’t sound like me?” Well, you’re not lying. The truth is, that voice you hear externally doesn’t sound like you, to YOU alone. Unfortunately, it sounds like that to everyone else. So why do we hate the sound of our own voice?

There is, in fact, a scientific reason and it lies in the way your ears register sound.

We all know that our ears are made up of three distinct areas: the outer ear – the part that can be seen, and we decorate with earrings etc, the middle ear, which amplifies and transfers the sound it receives and the inner ear, which transmits the sound directly to the brain.

Sound reception works in two ways. 1: it is air-conducted or 2: it is bone-conducted. Sound that comes from the world around us is air-conducted. For example, if you listen to your voice recorded – this is conducted through the air. The inner voice you use to give yourself a good talking to, you read with or motivate yourself with – for example the voice I am reading this article out with inside my head – this is bone-conducted.

Dr. Chris Chang explained what happened to NBC.”When [someone] listens to a recording of their voice speaking, the bone-conducted pathway that they consider part of their ‘normal’ voice is eliminated, and they hear only the air conducted component in unfamiliar isolation—what everybody else actually hear.”

So the voice you think is yours is pretty much a made up in your own brain! However, the voice you hear on a recording is truly your voice- the one that you speak with, sing with and communicate with every day.

So, finally, why do we hate  the sound of our own voice? Dr. William Cullinan of Marquette University explains:

“We hate it because it is so foreign. You’ve certainly never heard yourself that way normally —and for good reason—you can’t avoid producing both internal and external stimuli prior to hearing your own voice. The irony is you are the only person who ‘hears’ yourself in the way you think everyone else does.”

What we need to find out then, is how to change our voices for ones that we actually like! Surely this must be possible. Hmm, stay tuned!

source: Metro/ Woman’s Day

photo credit: Hiccup Causes

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