I read recently that our good friends (and twenty-something secret role models, c’mon admit it!) Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha, all dated and slept with more than 100 different men over six seasons of Sex and the City, whilst aged between their thirties and forties (sorry Sam, lol).
I’ve been surprised to note, mainly from discussions with female friends of all ages, that the women with the highest sex drives seem to be not those ‘live hard, play hard’ twenty-somethings, but actually those aged over mid-thirties who, like those SATC girls, report to be enjoying the best and most confident period of their sex lives.
Sex and relationship experts across the net agree, saying that many women find their arousal levels actually increase with age, and that women do indeed sexually peak in their mid-thirties to forties.
A survey was carried out by sex toy retailer Lovehoney in 2012. It polled 2,100 men and women ranging in age from 18 to over 65 and its findings demonstrated that as women reach those middle decades, many of them are in long-term relationships and have, for the most part, developed an awareness of their bodies, are comfortable with them and know what satisfies both them and their partner’s needs, and are less afraid to act upon it.
Taking into consideration the fact that women’s fertility actually decreases between 3 to 5 percent per year after 30 and even faster after 40 and right up to the dreaded menopause (during which a woman’s libido may disappear considerably), this being a woman’s sexiest period does makes a lot of sense naturally. It is quite logical that our bodies could be pushing us to procreate (again) before it’s biologically ‘too late’, and, according to the research of the often-quoted US sex expert Alfred Kinsey, who wrote those famous reports on sex and the male and female bodies during the 40s, women have more orgasms in their 30s than at any other time in their lives.
So Carrie Bradshaw, you were right! The thirties (and forties, Sam!) are most definitely better than the twenties when it comes to having better sex, but this leads to the hotly debated discussion (which I’ll leave for another article) about those ‘cougars’ or middle-aged women who prefer younger men! According to the experts; at around 18, a man’s sexual organs produce the most sexually-charged testosterone they ever will and research shows that the younger ones do indeed have the fastest and firmest erections and are the best equipped for encore performances…so, for the record, those cougar’s must definitely be on to something there…